Creating Moments that Influence Your Child’s Mental Health

Creating Moments that Influence Your Child’s Mental Health

We know that everything we do as mothers influence how our children perceive the world. What we don’t have control over is how much of the outside world plays a part of that influence. As a result, I worry how my son is experiencing the world around him at school. I always hope that repeating my wise one-liners resonate with him throughout his day.

How many times have you simply asked “how was your day?” only to hear “okay” or “it was good” with not much else. Cracking that communication door open for children can be a challenge sometimes. Since my son was very young, I have always used books as the key to creating moments that provide an opportunity to have conversations and positively influence how he thinks about serious life topics.

How I Use Books

At the age of 3, I noticed my son would worry often and I decided to pick up this book. It is a workbook, filled with a great story (and a metaphor about growing too many tomatoes) on how to identify what makes him worry and how to change his focus. It was just the right language for his age, and we still have conversations about it today.

worry too much book for children

When I lost my daughter, my dear friend Jennifer, who is an Early Childhood Education specialist, shared a few books that she knew would help me discuss death with my then 5 year old. I knew that despite the tragic experience we were all facing, I had to choose how this was going to influence the rest of my son’s life.

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Now that he is older, new challenges arise and I find myself looking for books that can influence how he operates in the world we live in. The tragedies in our news, the social dilemmas of friendship and the hard school work all are influencing our children. When I found Magination Press Family, who also published the Worry Too Much Book, had many different books that could help me have these conversations, I picked up a few to tackle what my son was feeling. The book series “What to Do When” is such a great collection of books that help with addressing issues kids face everyday. Similarly to the What to Do When You Worry Too Much, the What to Do When Mistakes Make You Quake was a great workbook to influence my son’s challenge with always wanting to be perfect.

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Understanding Myself, by Mary C Lamia, is a favorite of ours and he reads it in the car when we have gone for long rides. It helps us discuss how to deal with intense emotions such as guilt, pride, grief or embarrassment by providing questions and little survey’s to answer and assess the power of his emotions.

school made easy book for children

Since Jennifer is an expert in her field of early childhood education, I decided to get her thoughts on how parents can use Magination Press Family’s long list of books that address challenging topics like anxiety and death to talk to their children.

Interview with Early Childhood Expert, Jennifer Santana

Q: What topics do you find parents have a difficult time discussing with children in early childhood?

A: When an only child is about to have a sibling or parents are going through a divorce, any real stressors in the home that can influence a child growing up or affect their behavior.

Q: Why do you believe books that discuss these challenging topics are better rather than TV or video?

A: When your watching TV there is no one giving feedback to the child, rather than when you sit with your child and read a book you can encourage the child to ask questions and have a one on one conversation, and the book helps guide you through that. Many books that we use for our early education center provide additional content such as Notes to Parents (even in board books for toddlers) that help guide parents in their conversations.

Q: Why psychology focused books for kids?

A: Parents need to know about the early childhood development (birth to 5) of life because that is where brain development is happening for their kids. If we are not thinking about the mental health of children at that age, we are breaking their synapses in the brain and some things are not able to be repaired.

Q: What do you think are common struggles that parents may not be conscientious of raising young children?

A: With young children, parents often don’t understand what is developmentally appropriate for their child and they expect too much for children. Especially with toddlers, parents often tell a toddler to share and really it is not developmentally appropriate for them to share. You are putting expectations on children that they are just physically and developmentally not ready to do – so it’s not fair for them.

What I loved about this interview was that we know as mother’s with children of the same age, we’ve gone through many books between us that have helped us navigate through the journey of motherhood, fully conscious that we have the power every day to influence out children’s mental health. One of my favorite of her ideas is leaving books around the house that would be intriguing enough for a child to pick up and ask about it. It’s a great way to get the child to start the conversation.

influence child mental health

Do you or someone you know going through a challenging moment with a child and struggling with how to appropriately discuss it with them? I encourage you to explore the books from Magination Press Family as they are the books that both Jennifer and I have used to get the conversation going with our children.

Let me know in the comments – do you have any thoughts on being the influencer in your child’s life or the life of a child in the family?

I want to thank my friend Jennifer Santana for contributing and sharing her expertise. Thank you to Magination Press Family for sponsoring this post.

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18 Comments

  1. November 26, 2018 / 3:25 pm

    Books really are the best way to create quite, peaceful bonding time. Love this!

  2. November 26, 2018 / 1:53 pm

    Omg he just has the most darling smile! And that jumper he’s got on is super cute. My father taught me how to read and write starting at the age of 3 and I’m now a writer lol. Books have always been a powerful reminder that we are not alone. xo, Suzanne http://www.suzannespiegoski.com

  3. November 26, 2018 / 1:37 pm

    Such an important post! Thanks for sharing this!!

  4. November 26, 2018 / 11:44 am

    I’m so happy that you are taking those steps to address mental health early with your son! I love his sweater! Super cute. Happy Holidays to you both!

  5. Sharon Wu
    November 25, 2018 / 9:00 pm

    I’m so happy that you’re putting in extra effort to make sure that your child’s mental health stays in check as he grows up! These books sound great!

  6. adriana
    November 25, 2018 / 8:46 pm

    These books are a must! I’m going to show them to my sister in law!

  7. November 25, 2018 / 1:15 pm

    Mental Health is so important and it’s so good that you are taking these steps. Early Childhood Development is of utmost importance.

  8. Tonya Morris
    November 20, 2018 / 6:03 pm

    Reading at a young age is so crucial! P.S. LOVE his sweater!

  9. November 20, 2018 / 5:14 pm

    Wow thank you for sharing this with us because as someone who has battled with various mental health concerns in the past, I worry about how to address these with my son as he grows up!

  10. November 20, 2018 / 3:22 pm

    This is incredible! I am so glad that you’re taking steps to talk about mental health with your kid early! I think all families should do this!

  11. November 20, 2018 / 8:19 am

    I’m sorry for the loss you’ve experienced! I think using books to help with mental health is a fabulous idea. My boy is just 6 months old but already he likes reading. I like the point about how it provides a chance for dialogue and feedback other than just watching tv!

  12. Nataly
    November 20, 2018 / 7:35 am

    This is so important! Thank you for sharing this awesome post!

  13. November 19, 2018 / 8:32 pm

    It might seem crazy but in a lot of families handling emotions is some sort of tabu. Child’s mental health it’s just as important the physical health and many families don’t talk about it. Great post!!

    XO
    Candace
    http://www.thebeautybeau.com

  14. November 19, 2018 / 7:35 pm

    Thank you for this Jessica, mental health is hugely overlooked. Thank you for sharing with us!

    Wishing you and your family all the best,

    Lauren
    http://www.shoesandsashimi.com

  15. November 19, 2018 / 12:10 pm

    WOW. This is amazing. Mental health is still such a stigma, and I think it’s so awesome that you are helping your son understand and handle his emotions at such an early age.

  16. November 17, 2018 / 9:04 am

    Thank you for this Jessica! I’ve used Magination Press books in my work with children for over a decade and they continue to put out great resources for building emotionally resilient kids.
    Great article with necessary info!!

  17. November 17, 2018 / 8:04 am

    Thank you for introducing me to these books! I wonder if they have any that would help me nurture and guide emotionally intelligent children. Love this topic!

    • Jess
      Author
      November 17, 2018 / 8:48 am

      Hi Jamie! They do! They offer books for all ages and that is one of their missions to aid in the emotional and intellectual growth of children. You should definitely check them out! I’ve linked their bookstore in the post! xo, Jessica

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