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Unexpected Gifts of Love That Save You Money

Gifts of Love

February started out pretty rough for me. While I had a raring library of content to go, it all had to take a back seat to being sick (two months to be exact, ugh!) and taking care of myself as I prepare to direct a musical, create more video content (yay to hitting 1,000 subscribers on Youtube this week! Subscribe here to follow along), and much more. But it was never far from my mind that I wanted to share a few unexpected ways to give the gift of love this week that can save you money.

I’ve been listening to several books and podcasts to start off 2020, and many have been about money and love and time. That’s a mouthful right there, isn’t it? Since starting a no buy/low buy this year (more about all that very soon!) and with my husband’s birthday always the same week was Valentine’s Day, I wanted to rethink what makes a great gift for him and everyone I love.

Now, if you haven’t heard of the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, I encourage you to do so. He shares that the five love languages are: words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time, and physical touch. Before I ever read the book or knew about the love languages, I recall a young me hearing my therapist say “If he doesn’t love you like you understand and receive love, then no act of how he thinks he needs to love you will fulfill you.” Whew! And at twenty-something, that was a lot to take in. But as I got older and got married (not to THAT guy!), I realized the importance of  how I communicated what I needed to feel loved and that I also had to really focus on how I would show and give the gift of love to others.

I used to think that the best written card or the most glamorous gift would scream I LOVE YOU! But with time, the book, and personal experience, I realized (for a while now) that if you give a gift that doesn’t speak to that person’s love language, while they might appreciate the gift itself, it won’t necessarily SPEAK to their way of understanding LOVE the way you think it would. It won’t spark that inner joy the way you’re hoping it will, and ultimately spending money unnecessarily.

So here are some of my favorite gifts of love to give that can work and save you money this Valentine’s Day.

WORD OF AFFIRMATION

This person needs to hear you say nice things to them. They need to hear you being appreciative and thankful for the big things, but more importantly, the small things they do day to day. If you love someone who reacts most when you SAY the words that AFFIRM their work, their effort and their presence, then they feel most loved when you tell them.

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Words of Affirmation gift ideas:

– Take this week to write them a note of gratitude each day to lead up to Valentine’s Day.

– Set a reminder on your phone at least 3 times each day with words you want to tell or text them.

– End the week with a recorded note answering the following questions 1) Why I chose you? 2) Why you matter to me? 3) What I know you want out of life. and  4) What you’ve done to make you great to love.

– Cost? Zero.

ACTS OF SERVICE

This person needs to see you do something for them. They want their day to day workload or their responsibilities taken off their plate in a way that relives them of that burden. If you love someone who reacts most when you DO something they often have to do, then they feel most loved when you do it without being asked.

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Acts of Service gift ideas:

– Ask yourself: what do they do every single day or on rotation that you can take over without being asked to do so?

– Do the dishes, laundry, change the sheets, fill their gas tank, give the kids a bath, or make a meal. Do one or do all.

– Ask them: what makes work hard? Then try to find a way to make that challenge for them much easier.

– Cost? Pretty much zero.

QUALITY TIME

This person needs to have you intentionally plan the time you will spend with them. They want to spend uninterrupted time with you that you are aware they need. If you love someone who reacts most when you TAKE the TIME to just be with them and nothing else (no phone, no tv, etc.), then they feel most loved when you are with them.

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On me: C Belt, Faux leather pants, Black boots

Quality Time gift ideas:

– Send a calendar invite that says” JUST YOU AND ME TIME”, and have a plan to show them you are intentionally prioritizing time for them.

– Invite your partner to meet you at work for an unexpected lunch date.

– Put your phone away. From the minute you are together, it does not exist.

– Anything your PLAN together without interruption, will be the greatest gift.

– Cost? Zero. Remember the effort of making time is what will speak to them, not how expensive that lunch date might be.

PHYSICAL TOUCH

This person needs to feel you show them displays of affection throughout the day. They want to feel a sense of love through your physical touch when you are in their presence that isn’t something they have to ask for, but that you do.

Love Quality Time

Physical Touch gift ideas:

– Hold their hand in public, put your hand on theirs when in the car, rub your hands over their hair unexpectedly.

– Make all your simple kisses (hello & goodbye) last 6 seconds, at least!

– Every time you pass them in the house, grab their hand and let it linger as they walk past or tap them on the back. A sweet love tap.

– Make this week of love (but try always!) the week  you put the checklist above on overdrive.

Cost? Zero.

GIFTS

This person needs to receive something from you that shows you’ve given thought to the gift you give. It won’t be the cost of what you give to them that appeals to their heart, but the STORY you can tell about why you got them that gift. If you love someone who reacts most when they RECEIVE a gift from you and you can share WHY you gave it to them, they will feel most loved when they receive it.

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Giving gifts ideas:

– Create a online gallery or photobook of memories from their favorite photos marked on their cell phone. A slideshow can work too.

– Refill something you know they always use in their day to day routine. A small gift basket of toiletries or skincare they love and always run out of. Favorite pen, a 2nd phone charger, hand cream for work, etc.

– Shop with each other. The idea of spending moments together to choose their gift can affirm that you know they appreciate a gift.

– Cost? As much as you want to spend and can afford knowing that the thought of the gift outweighs the value of it.

Remember you can’t pick someone else’s love language. You have to understand theirs and gift them your love in the way they will understand and appreciate it best. And don’t forget that there is nothing wrong with doubling down on a gift that can fulfill more than one love language. It’s all about the intention. Have a wonderful love week everyone! Until next time…

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17 Comments

  1. Whitney
    February 17, 2020 / 5:42 pm

    So sorry to hear you have been battling sickness for a while! That’s no fun at all. Sometimes it’s nice to take a breather on the blog and then lots of new ideas come during the break

  2. February 17, 2020 / 10:44 am

    I’m definitely a words of affirmation person but my fiance is a physical touch person! We try really hard to have times where we’ll have heart-to-hearts while snuggling on the couch. Perfect blend of both worlds!

  3. February 17, 2020 / 6:09 am

    I really want to read The 5 Love Languages but some how I haven’t gotten around to it. I enjoyed your post, it was well thought out and provided a lot of inspiration.

  4. February 16, 2020 / 12:56 pm

    So many great ideas for each type of love language! I’ve been wanting to read this book. Thanks for sharing these!

  5. February 12, 2020 / 11:32 am

    I love listening to podcasts as well. I need to check out the ones you mentioned. I think quality time and words of affirmation are something I move towards to.

  6. February 12, 2020 / 12:25 am

    Love, love, love these ideas.

  7. Jackie
    February 11, 2020 / 11:57 pm

    Thanks for sharing this post! This book is amazing and teaches us really great things!!!

  8. February 11, 2020 / 8:56 pm

    This is great! I’ve always been fascinated by this. I love that you not only explained the love languages, but gave examples on his to execute them! When you don’t understand your SO’s love language, it can be hard to know how to express it. Thank you!

  9. February 11, 2020 / 1:53 pm

    What a great post topic! We read that book for our premarriage counseling and it’s something I keep reminding myself in our marriage— 5+ years later!

  10. Stephanie
    February 11, 2020 / 12:43 pm

    Now THIS is the kind of gift guide we all need to read!!! I love how you really took the time to be purposeful with these ideas. I loved reading through this – and you’ve given me so much inspiration for Valentine’s Day!

  11. February 11, 2020 / 12:40 pm

    All free things that we should be doing all the time. It’s so hard to remember in the hustle and bustle . I love free things too!

  12. February 11, 2020 / 1:54 am

    Such a great post, I think the five love languages are such an interesting way to look at how we interpret love. These are also great ways to show our love!

    Kileen
    cute & little

  13. February 10, 2020 / 7:47 pm

    It’s such a great book! It makes things a bit easier when you know what triggers your spouse and means more to them. My love language is acts of service.

  14. Jennifer Prince
    February 10, 2020 / 3:56 pm

    This is such a fabulous thing to make people aware of!! The 5 love languages are a real and valuable thing. When we were newlyweds, my husband and I did a study with other couples on them, and we learned SO much about each other. It’s a great thing to consider!! :)

  15. February 10, 2020 / 9:43 am

    Such amazing ideas that are much more meaningful than purchasing a gift! Thanks for all of the inspiration, Jessica ?

  16. February 9, 2020 / 7:57 pm

    I wish I had read this book when I was 20-something and before I got married! ? Is it too late now? Haha.

  17. February 9, 2020 / 6:22 pm

    Such truly thoughtful gifts ideas! Thank you for sharing xo

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